Be good or not to be good

When you good to others, people tend to take more advantage of you rather than saying you good.
When you have your own opinion of everything, people tend to say you very arrogant, not an easy going person.
When you try to be pleasant, people tend to say you are so timid, so soft easy to be control.

If you are too good to others, people will tend to said you have motive.

This is just too difficult.

Someone has enter my territory and I'm not defending in the first place and now territory almost been taken still I'm not defending. And when you are not defending people will think your territory is easy to be conquer. Once they had conquered it difficult to escape. You are trap there forever and ever.

To prevent things get ugly you stay back as follower.

It that what you will do?

NO, I will fight back this time and have my territory back.